Ok here it is and i know i hate asking for stuff that's been covered many times but i've been reading for 2 days and cannot figure it out
phone: w810 RED CID:49 DB2010, unbranded, still locked, flashed with R4EA031 both Main and FS
software: I have XS++v3.1(darwin), Setool2lite, TUGZip, 7Zip
Patches : a few mostly cosmetic

Ok my question is where does the theme.thm created by TUGzip goes?! that's where i get lost

Ok lil update i took the thm file and copied it in the theme folder on the phone. I was able to get the background pic but the icons are still the same.

Never mind please delete i finaly got it
I just copied the thm file into the theme folder in the phone doh!