I WHEN TO OPTION AND TOLD THE PHONE TO RESET ALL BUT NOW IT S JUST STUCK IN PLEASE WAIT.I TRIED USING THE UPDATE SERVICE BUT IT STILL JUST STAY IN PLEASE WAIT.DOES IT TAKE LONG OR DID I KILL THE PHONE??

It can take a few mins, there's a fair bit goining on in the background.
I'd say after 5 mins then something is wrong and you need to do the update again.

maybe your battery is low ...

i had to reload the firmware i used Davinicteam to get it working